Beliefs determine how we see, interact and experience the world around us. Beliefs are ideas that are made after repetition and contemplation, that are accepted as truth and reality and therefore impact how we see life.

Belief and knowledge are often in conflict. The difference might be subtle, but substantial. Knowledge is something that you and others, who might be considered experts in that field, consider to be true and there is reasonable, plausible, and provable scientific explanation for that knowledge.

A belief on the other hand is based on personal experience or pure faith.

Too many people require you to accept their belief based on blind faith. Belief is not knowledge and therefore usually not provable beyond a shadow of a doubt.

Remember, it wasn’t long ago that people believed the world was flat, and that we thought women were witches, hunted them down, and burned them.

Welcome to belief, which is based on superstitions, or blindness.

Stupid humans who once believed that the Earth was the center of the universe, and that it was flat. Really it demonstrated that what really was FLAT was the human ability to think outside the box and perceive something that others could not perceive.

When scientists discovered great things, hundreds of years ago, they were imprisoned, tortured and murdered. The Catholic Church did not want people to see beyond, and therefore stopped the voices of these researchers.

Actually, during that time in history it was thought to be common knowledge that these ancient flat world beliefs were true. Even though humankind was sincere in its ignorant beliefs, those beliefs were false and by not believing as the others told you to, you were subject to arrest, imprisonment, and torture which often lead to death.

Times have changed. Today, things that you believe have changed, and you may believe in something so firmly that you count it as knowledge. When, in fact, there may be considerable evidence from the past experience that a particular belief is a truth,” its only truth for you from your personal experience. Just because you believe it is true, does not make it true. Although it might become a truth for you personally, by believing it you are limiting yourself by holding on to self-limiting beliefs.

The trick is to pull back the veneer and see the real truth. That is one that is universal and does not need to be believed, it just is. These are referred to as universal truths. They exist and work beyond our own self-limiting beliefs. They shape and work through the universe and in our lives.

Gravity is a truth. Believe in it or not. Its still a real truth. If you drop something it will fall to the ground. If you trip, and fall, you could hurt your butt. You can only fall DOWN, you don’t fall up.

Now this is only a truth that exists here on Earth under normal circumstances. There are other forces that can resist this law such as a strong wind. You may have been programmed since childhood to believe things that you thought to be true – but, once you realized that they were not true, you may have wondered why you wasted time and energy believing in them at all.

Take the case of Santa Claus. You believed he was real. You believed that by some mystical miracle he went around the world in one night and brought presents to every well-behaved child. You may have further believed that he ate the burnt cookies you left for him and he drank that horrible lactose free milk. You believe that it was all related to your doing good things and not bad things, and that Santa was well, almost like God!

There was potent evidence to your faith:

Your parents told you he was real. (You trusted your parents without question)

The cookies were disappeared and the milk glass was empty. Even the crumbs disappeared.

There were presents under the Christmas tree in the morning.

You saw Santa at the supermarket, and you had a picture of Santa to prove it.

Your friends believed in him also.

All of this evidence pointed toward knowledge, you just knew he existed. It pointed to a truth in that not only did you know he existed, everyone around you knew also. This belief as you found out was not true. It had shaped your view of the world as a child and still may have a lingering impact on your current belief system.

The point is that there are other things that you may believe are true, but are not. You have been told things all your life for a variety of reasons: to make you feel better, to be funny, to hurt you, because other people believed it was true, and for other noble and not so noble reasons. You made the choice whether to believe what was being told you. You weighed this information and decided whether it fit or not into your already existing belief system. You either rejected the idea straight out, accepted it as part of what you already believed, or it changed your belief system.

Beliefs are very powerful, and they do shape our reality. If you believe in something strong enough, it becomes real in your life. There is a universal law that states that likes attract like. If you believe in something strong enough it not only becomes your reality, it attracts similar things to your life.

Suppose you believe you are clumsy. Your parents said you were clumsy, your coach as school did and so did your friends. They told you that you were an accident waiting to happen. You thought this to be true. Your whole life you tripped over your shadow. Not only did you believe this, but you also created that reality and circumstances of being clumsy.

Examine your beliefs and draw back the veil. Well, Ill be. They seem to have constantly hypnotized me to trip myself up — all my life — well, I’ll be! And, then – you don’t have to be! It’s all your belief.

Dr. Jay Polmar, author of Thinkright, was a teacher and instructor at colleges and universities in the Southwest and Hawaii about the quality and power of Thought being an active force in creating the quality of your life. Learn more in Thinkright.

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My marriage was going great, and we were both so happy…or so I thought. It was the day my daughter left to college that my husband came up to me and said, “Love, I think we need a break”. I was stunned! But I knew a divorce was going to come next. So before it happened, I went on mission trying to figure out how to get my husband back.

On my journey to find answers, this is what I learned:

As much as I had strong feelings for him and was desperate to figure out how to win my husband back, I realized that I needed to keep my dignity and not put him in the driver’s position. I was not willing to be the one begging him to reconsider, but I wanted to show him that he was the loser in this crazy mess of a separation, not me.

As you figure out how to get husband back, and you notice he still has feelings for you, then try start up a conversation with him. But keep it casual and avoid getting too emotional, because you want him to feel he and enough space and time to think about the situation. So if you plan on contacting him by phone, email or text message, then keep it brief in reminding him what he is missing out on, without smothering him.

And if you play your cards right, he may start showing some more interest in you, giving you the opportunity to remind him of the fond memories you share. In figuring out how to get my husband back, I did not talk about the any of the bad times we had, or about any hard feelings I had towards him. If I had, it would have given him a good reason to finalize the divorce.

If he gives no response to the memories you remind him of, it could mean two things. Either he has lost interest in you, or he simply need more space to think about the marriage, so give him as much time as he needs. However, if he reacts positively and shows some affection, then keep on talking about your fond memories together, and how much the marriage means to you both, until you know how to win your husband back.

It was only once he had opened up to me, did I tell my husband how I felt about losing him. Seeing how to win my husband back, I let my guard down and opened up to him, but without coming across as weak, needy, or desperate. When your husband drops hints of fixing the marriage, you should tell him how you feel, and then see how he reacts. If his body language is not positive, then lay off on getting too emotional and rather wait for him to open up to you.

When my husband thought of divorcing me, these are some of the things I did as I learned how to get my husband back. If your hubby is about to call it quits, then give some of my tips a try, but also seek professional help. Nut whatever you do, remember to never give up hope, avoid being weak, talk to husband about rectifying your issues, and avoid divorce at all costs.

We all want more out of life. To really upgrade your life you need to act more like a manager and less like a employee. When you’re an employee you do what you’re told without asking many questions because that’s your job. But there’s another way. You can manage your way to a better life!

By acting more like a manager you give yourself a deeper stake in the outcome of your behavior and you feel as though you’re working for yourself instead of someone else. To act more like a manager you simply have to treat yourself like a company instead of a human being. You get to call the shots and you get to say what goes.

Managing Finances: Sure, you know you have control over how you spend your money, but you also have control over how you make your money. Working for someone else is just that: working. The best way to really make big money is to take some simple steps to start your own business. Consider taking some classes, reading some books and just brainstorming for something you can do on the side, when you’re not working, to make a few dollars. Don’t work for someone else, make sure you’re working for your self.

Managing Health: You control not only what you eat, but the actions you take. By taking charge and treating your body like a factory you can begin managing it as a manager might control an assembly line. The more good food you eat and the more you exercise, the more efficient and powerful your body is. If you’re having a difficult time being motivated, try to imagine yourself a little cartoon manager who literally controls how your body moves and acts.

Manage Your Time: We all want more time and we all complain about not having enough. The key to time management is a little bit of planning mixed with a little bit of flexibility Again, just doing things for the sake of doing them is not good enough. For every action you need to act like a manager and consider why you are doing it and if it is good for you, the company, or not.

Becoming a manager of your money, your wellness and your time will pay you back a million fold as you improve your management skills. Stop being a worker and give yourself a promotion – right to the manager’s office!

Every single month of May we dedicate one day of the year to our dearest person, our mom. We choose this time to show our appreciation and our love. This is the day when we pay all our attention to her if we have forgotten to do that during the year.

It’s easy to forget our mother in the daily routine. We go fast to our jobs and back home and often we forget our most important people. It is a great tradition to remember them at least that once in a year and let her know that we love her.

It is not with our gifts that we show it but by sharing our memories and emotions, paying her a visit and spending the day with her. This day has a deep meaning for her and for us. It is the time when we refresh our connection.

The gift that is popular to give her, is a symbol of that attention, but it must not precede our feelings. The gift is merely a token, but the intent must be obvious. Some people even don’t make gifts, for not to hide the meaning.

The ideal gift may be not the most expensive one but that which the person puts his heart in it. A simple little card made from old important pictures can be one that she will cherish for the rest of her life. Yet a practical and expensive gift can be quickly forgotten.

To find the best mother’s day idea, look into your heart. Think about your feelings, think about the things that express them. An old little something, even if just a picture can do that.

No matter how you choose to show your appreciation, remember the meaning of this day. It is to show your love, to remind your mom that you are there. And to remind yourself that she is there, and about your undying connection.

Do you know what you want to do for the rest of your life? When I put it that way, it makes it sound so much bigger. Do you have your future career planned out? Some people are lucky enough to know what they want to do and know they will love it.

Others aren’t so lucky. They have no clue what they want to do. Just the idea of doing the same thing everyday until retirement in 40 some odd years makes it that much scarier.

Choosing your future career shouldn’t be so scary. You should be able to know that even if what you choose to go to college for falls through, it doesn’t mean your life is ruined forever.

If you don’t know where to start, look at your strengths and weaknesses. What are you good at? What school subjects did you excel at and enjoy? What do you like to do?

Stay away from jobs and careers that are in areas that you don’t like and are bad at. If you love math and are really good at it, look into a career that has math, not english if you hate english.

Now choose one or two areas of interest that are broad but that you might be interested in. Find out what careers are available in these fields and look into them further. Do any of these jobs look interesting to you?

Look further into interesting careers. Look at what they do, how much they earn, what the hours and working conditions are like, possible advancement, and anything else that is important to you in a job.

If you don’t know what kind of career you want, you should do a lot of research to find something you will like. Also, don’t worry about choosing the wrong one. You can also change your career path.

Excessive heat should be guarded against as this will also frequently result in poor, weedy growth – rubber plant leaves droop miserably in very hot conditions. Keep plants away from radiators and out of the stream of hot air rising from them. If plants must be placed on heating appliances the shelf width should be increased to ensure that rising hot air is deflected away from plants and not through their leaves.

When using aerosol sprays of any description (other than those for pest control and cleaning) plants should be carefully avoided; better still to remove them from the room altogether.

Like fertilisers, all insecticides should be used as instructed, as that seemingly harmless little extra may well cause leaf scorch and other damage. Pests should be treated as soon as they are seen, as any delay will make their control just that much more difficult.

The majority of plants will do better if watered with rain water, which for preference should he applied at room temperature. Very cold water can prove fatal to such plants as saintpaulia.

Abutilon are shrubby plants that are best suited to the cool, lightly shaded garden room, rather than indoor conditions. Keep well watered during the active growing period in spring and summer, and on the dry side at other times. It is mostly hybrid forms which are offered for sale. Producing maple-like leaves and pendulous bell- shaped flowers, abutilons may be used as centre pieces in outdoor bedding schemes during the summer months. If pruned in September – October they will require less winter storage space. Stems can be shortened by half their length to keep plants in shape.

Propagate from seed sown early in the year, or from easily rooted cuttings taken at the same time. As plants become established, pinch out the leading growth to encourage a more compact appearance.

So much mystery and potting shed black magic has been woven into the work of propagation that the amateur, not surprisingly, makes a very tentative approach to the seedbox and propagating bench. Once the first inhibitions are lost there is a whole new fascinating field of gardening to be explored with possible attempts at hybridisation to evolve new varieties.

One thing is absolutely certain, the seed or cutting is determined to grow whatever mistakes might be made by the propagator so at least there is a mutual interest straight away. There is no need to spend vast sums on greenhouses and frames, or to put down acres to nursery beds. Usually only one or two plants are needed, one for the garden, the other to give away to a friend.

Any obviously dead or very old wood is cut clean out at the base. Then surplus or crossing branches are trimmed out and the bush generally tidied up. Tree pruning is a dangerous undertaking requiring specialist knowledge.

Having during over thirty-five years of gardening spent hours working many feet above ground level I speak from experience. Any limbs to be removed must be cut close to the trunk or the branch from which they spring. Indeed, this applies in all pruning; snags harbour pests and diseases which will ultimately destroy the host plant. Large branches should be under cut for at least a quarter of the way through which prevents ugly splintering of the stem. Better still take them down piecemeal by means of a rope, or call in a specialist who is properly insured. Dress all wounds with coal tar or a similar antifungicidal substance.

Suckers can be a problem particularly on grafted plants. Rhododendrons, lilacs, roses, some berberis, crabs and cherries are a few of the shrubs often worked on to a stock. Any growth from below soil level must be suspect and this is one good reason for avoiding deep digging near established shrubs, as this may cause damage to the roots which will lead to suckering.

No covering of the compost is advisable or necessary. The pans are then covered with a sheet of glass which in turn is covered with a sheet of newspaper or brown paper to exclude light and prevent drying out. After germination the seedlings are shaded with muslin.

Evergreen shrubs, as for example rhododendron, berberis, and garrya, do not need regular or systematic pruning. Occasionally they are forced out of shape by wind or broken by snow, become thin or grown out, then the gardener must use secateurs and saw to restore equilibrium.

The aim should be to preserve the characteristic outline of the plant and this means doing only sufficient cutting to maintain it in good health, combined with maximum production of colour be it flower, berry, leaf or stem. Pruning is most important in the early years of a plant’s life when a little discreet cutting is required to create a good overall shape.

Occasionally a border is neglected due to lack of interest or ability to cope on the part of the previous owner, and drastic renovations are necessary. Go over the border naming as many of the inhabitants as you can.

Try wherever possible to cut each branch away cleanly, leaving no stumps as these may harbour pests and diseases. This is particularly important with evergreens, magnolias and cherries. Where the complete removal of a branch is not practicable or desirable, always cut to an outward-facing bud, the wound sloping up to leave the bud at the apex.

Removal of heavier branches must be done with a saw making the cut as close to the main stem as possible. I always round the rough edges afterwards with a knife before treating the exposed surface with a suitable protective covering. Above all make the cuts clean, not ragged, as they heal so much quicker leaving little or no scar.

Pruning can be phased out over two years so that the effects are not drastically obvious or the shock unbearable to the plants. By careful feeding, manuring and pruning, an apparently derelict border can be restored.

No tree excites more affection in me than the graceful native birch. In winter sculptural in white beauty, in spring touched with the pale green charm of breaking bud, then in autumn all golden glory in the October sunshine.

In the autumn the leaves are absolutely delightful, first green rimmed scarlet which deepens until the whole leaf is bright silver and red.

In spite of this deficiency it is a superb shrub of compact habit. The yellow flowers in spring followed by the bright red berries, and deep scarlet of autumn colour make this species one of the choicest barberries. Where garden space is limited I would choose the variety atropurpurea. Used as a centrepiece in a blue and white ground planting, or as a contrast with deep orange annuals, it is charmingly effective.

The variety coccinea is a pearl-tight, compact, and very prim with flowers of coral red, while corallina compacta always reminds me of a garden in the Lake District, quiet under a warm April sun, with the berberis making a flame of vivid scarlet against the white limestone rock. Few places are lovelier than White Cragg Garden in the spring and it is well worth a visit if you are ever in Westmorland.

There will be enough self-sown seedlings of B. wilsoniae to satisfy all but the Fagans of the gardening world. A selected form listed as Bountiful may have virtues in excess of those possessed by the parent, but I can not discover them.

With B. darwinii as one parent and B. linearifblia the other, what else could the offspring, lologensis, be but superb. The habit is erect and the evergreen leaves well formed, while the flowers are yellomi, softened with a hint of peach.

The amount of compensation one makes throughout their lifetime career and the subsequent lifestyle and quality of life as a result of that income depends a lot on the amount of salary a person negotiates before their first day on the job.

This could be considered whether it is one’s first job out of college or a mid career job change. Further, there are financial consequences when you are in a career working for a company that you are even very happy with, of not doing salary negotiation at the right time.

Throughout your career, you may earn pay raises and promotions within the company that you work for, but for example, when the company offers scheduled raises, as many companies do, the impact of the starting salary with that company is huge.

This is not only applicable to your first salary negotiation and subsequent incremental pay raises but also to salary differentials you may get when you changes roles within a company. You may switch into a job requiring significantly increased duties, effort, or responsibilities, and the salary you had earned beforehand can genuinely influence the starting salary at the new job.

As an example, imagine a person starting a new job as a QA analyst in a high tech company somewhere in America. Suppose that person begins with a starting salary of $45,000. Most likely that person will have to put in 6 months to a full year before they are offered their first pay raise. Suppose it is a 10% raise which would be HUGE at many employers. The employee would gain an additional $4500 per annum based on that increase.

Suppose that same person started at $55,000 or more. That same pay hike of 10% would provide the same employee $5500 additional salary per year. With the first salary band, the employee would still be under the $50,000 mark after one full year of effort and after a 10% pay increase, while in the second situation the employee would be at over $60,000 a year after a 10% pay increment.

Now analyze the compound repercussion of these two starting salaries on the individuals earning potential. First let’s examine a 4 year timeline, all other things being equal (that is, suggesting no pay increases and no job advances). The person earning $45K will have earned $180K in total salary in 4 years. The person earning $55K will have earned $220K in 4 years. That is a $40K difference just based on where the employee started in terms of negotiated compensation.

Introduce a ten percent raise after year 1 and consider the impact as the person moves through their career. The person with a most salary in the beginning will always be ahead of the person with the lower starting salary, all things being equal (i.e. identical job, identical job performance). The person with the higher salary will be getting ahead faster than the person starting with the lower salary. This impact multiplies with each coming year assuming the same annual percentage pay raise for each.

When requesting a pay increase, if a person earning $50,000 earns a 5% raise without negotiating anything additional, that’s okay. But consider the impact if the person negotiates a 15% increase because they have really performed well in the job and they have all the supporting research and a track record to command it. That employee will have negotiated $7,500 in a raise versus just accepting $2500. Multiply that by 10 years, and there is a clear $50,000 difference in the person’s salary potential.

Many experts feel it goes without saying that it is better to try negotiating a raise or an improvement to the compensation package than to simply accept what is offered. The first offer is usually the lowest offer and can be improved upon. This negotiation must be done with masterful skills and must be well founded with a supporting case for the increase.

It must also consider factors such as market, company guidelines, and professional performance. However when done well, it can really pay off. Remember to consider the value of all factors of compensation when asking for an increase. Some people truly value time and quality of life, while others are willing to venture out and accept stock options in lieu of extra salary.

However, when it comes to negotiating, don’t be afraid to consider asking for more.