Can’t making dreams come true be just as easy? Can’t we free ourselves of our doubts? Is it not possible? How can we do it in a way so that it looks as easy as brushing our teeth? This is an excerpt form the book named ONE by Masami Sato and it shows how it can be done step-by-step, getting one ready to start walking towards one’s dreams today.

We all have dreams. But not all of us have the faith in ourselves, that we can have and live those dreams in our lifetime. Actually, the secret to have such certainty is simple. And the reason why we doubt it so much is also straightforward.

We can now start by asking ourselves the first question..

Why do we not do the things we want to do?

Often, our thoughts stop our actions. Sometimes the more we think about it, the less we become committed to accomplish what we initially wanted to do. Because the more we think about it, we come up with more and more reasons for not doing it.

Then is it possible to be certain that we will definitely accomplish what we want to do in our life?

Sure, absolutely! To start with, let us look at the power of habits

If we have an appointment for a meeting tomorrow night, we might not spend too much time worrying whether we can reach there or not. We would not be bothered about the likelihood of having a car accident and not being present at the appointment. In the same way when we walk to the bathroom, we may not worry if the toilet would be broken down.

We have so much more certainty about these types of ‘normal’ actions we take every day. They’re habits.

However, we are doubtful about our dreams

The interesting part is that there are several things that we are not very sure about. These are the things that we really want to do in our lives – our Dreams!

So, what is the secret for the assurance that we will realize our dreams?

First of all: Just make it a daily habit!

We can get started by being more confident about our acts meant to meet our desires – the type of dreams that actually fosters our life.

For example, if a person’s dream is to make his fair share of contributions to the society, and giving is a big yearning in his life, there is no need to doubt the possibility of being able to make that contribution. Al that is necessary is to make it a daily habit.

Second: Try to make it as important (and as much easy) as brushing teeth..

Achieving our dreams can be just like brushing our teeth. It wouldn’t feel good if we didn’t brush our teeth for a long time, would it? We wouldn’t spend hours thinking of which toothpaste to use or delay the good feeling of having clean teeth for other ‘priorities’. We feel uncomfortable if our teeth are not clean. So we just clean them!

Coming back to our example, if giving is so important to us, we have to ask ourselves certain questions: What if giving is in fact of as much importance as brushing our teeth? What if it is making us feel good? What if it is helping to maintain our health?

No matter how much or little we perceive we have right now, we really can start giving and sharing today. So no matter how seemingly impossible it is to achieve our dreams, we can start walking towards them today. We can if we see it as something important, a top priority that we should do every day! Then we won’t feel comfortable if we don’t do it. Just like brushing our teeth.

and Third: Give first, then we will get back

When we are ready to give first before we have even got what we yearn for – what we are dreaming of – we are sending a strong message to ourselves which says, ‘there is enough, and more will come.’ It lets us know the joy today – the joy of sharing.

If you want to be rich, be generous. And you’ll be blessed with abundance. If you want to be superbly intelligent, don’t be afraid to teach others. And you’ll know more. If you want to give, just give selflessly. Do not attach any expectation of return. Just let go. And joy will automatically be rewarded to you. The simple joy of giving.

So do not be afraid to share and give what you have, for it will not hinder you from achieving your purpose, whatever it is. It will only make you achieve your dreams quicker. And your journey there will be full of joy.

But are not habits smaller, in comparison with our BIG dreams?

Just do it, don’t worry about the ’scale’

Because anything can take place in life. We might get started in a pretty simple way. And these simple things might lead us to another act, and form there to another. Our confidence in our simple actions and executing them one by one constantly takes us forward. But if we feel that it is unfeasible to do something now because it is simply unachievable, it is unlikely to ever happen.

The secret to achieve your dreams has always been here, and will always be here. The people who create miracles, inspirations, and the real sense of joy, already know this. They are always using it.

Dreams and marvels are not accidents. We make them through our options.

So, would you start walking towards your dreams today?

Contents are excerpted with minor modification from ONE, a book written by Masami Sato. To get a free copy of ONE, visit www.B1G1.com and start sharing the joy of giving. Feel free to use or republish the content of the above article, fully or partially, as long as it is preserved in its original content, with proper attribution to Masami Sato and www.B1G1.com.

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We are raised with ideas that love has something to do with how we express ourselves toward others. We think that when we love someone, we will compromise and make them feel better and will sacrifice ourselves and do anything for the object of our adoration. While this is true to a point, it is backwards. You can not love another until you fully embrace yourself.

The notion that you must cater to the needs of others in the name of love creates internal conflict and it is really the furthest thing from love. We are taught that we must strive to “be good” but that implies that we are inherently “bad” or that there is something we must achieve or do in order to be good and loved. We set ourselves up for lives of unhappiness and Self-sacrifice, feeling that love comes from an external source and to attain it, we must cater to the perceived needs of others.

When you can embrace yourself, exactly as we show up, (whether you like the characteristics or not) you then allow yourself to be Self-loving. You cant help whether you feel anger or love in any moment, and you cant control other people and their perceptions. All you can do is surrender control and accept yourself and what you feel in any given moment, whether that feeling is of wanting to kiss someone or whether you want to kick them. You dont have to act on anything, merely accept that you feel it and once you accept it, you can then change it if you desire. You cant change something you are unwilling to see.

When you can accept your feelings in any given moment, you will eventually find that you are happy to be you and can remain steadfastly true to yourself by honoring your feelings. When you can be true to yourself and other peoples opinions hold no power over you, then you can truly love without condition. You find that your approval and acceptance is the only validation you need and little by little, your attachments to how other people respond to you melt away. You find that it makes no difference whether your love is reciprocated; you love because you feel love for yourself and nobody can take that away from you. You find that it feels wonderful to share yourself and your love with whoever will receive it, in whatever form it shows up; whether it is helping a stranger with groceries or being present with your kids or giving yourself over to your lover fully and completely.

When we release the need for external approval, we find our own validation and approval is the only one we need. We find that our love is expressed in everything you do and you free yourself to be completely and steadfastly true to ourselves. We also find that in loving the Self, we cant help but love every aspect of our lives because we see and express our own Love of Self in everything we do.

I endured abuse as a child. I’m sure most people today have some scars from some sort of dysfunction in their early family life. My purpose here is not to tell horror stories, but I will tell you about how it has affected my life.

My father was and still is an alcoholic. I was never angry at him for it. Alternately I felt sorry for him. He is a good man who loved his children and tried to teach them values. His addiction and relative lack of social skills led him to be distant, unreliable, and angry. My mother who felt guilty for what we had to go through because of his alcoholism and their relationship was very emotionally distant. I was the oldest of 6 and felt responsible for everyone’s happiness and well-being. I’m not looking for sympathy. I am actually grateful for my trials and the empathy and determination I have learned through them. I will say that I had some serious scars.

My fist marriage was ruined by my lack of self-love and trust issues. Then, the divorce, nearly killed me. I had sworn that my children would never have to endure divorce, but didn’t know how to do anything different. The truth is that we only know what we live until we learn something new, and we either change or cave. The pain made me cave, and then change.

Getting rid of the insecurities and fears of my ego will be a lifelong process. But I can say that I can talk about my past now without tears. And, in contrast to the average 2nd marriage stats, mine is going really well. I credit this to being willing to look at my own faults.

I have always been aware of my deep-seated insecurities. I felt unlovable and insignificant. Though I knew there must be a better way and that I was meant to feel joy, I couldn’t find tactile answers. I looked to my religion, and was open to any new teaching or method that didn’t conflict with my beliefs.

If I were to share each of the things I have found to help me, I would have to write a book (maybe someday). Yoga, meditation, service, endurance athletic events, a business that helps me reach goals in every area, and loving 8 great children unconditionally have been helpful in my healing journey. My business which has to do with the Law of Attraction has taught me a lot about finding joy. Sometimes I wonder why I hadn’t heard of these principles earlier. Maybe I wasn’t really ready to implement them. It’s interesting how life gives you things when it does.

The bottom line in getting out of my mind and into my spirit was quite simply the decision or acceptance to be happy. Yes, it sounds too simple. So, why so hard to implement? I think that we get some “peanut payoff” for being miserable. Like sympathy or revenge. We don’t want to let our offenders off the hook. Well, guess what? We didn’t put them there. they did, and they’ll have to get themselves off. Healing only takes a decision.

Yes, we all have something to be grateful for on any given day, and probably any given hour. When you start thinking negatively again, think of the 5 billion people in the world right now that you wouldn’t trade places with!

You are a human being, not a human DOING. So, stop trying to do things to make yourself feel better. Just BE. We learned more about what this means when visiting Ethiopia to get our two youngest children. In the face of poor living conditions, lack of food, and an orphan epidemic due to AIDS, most people were happy. They had discovered through tough circumstance that it is not circumstance that determines happiness, it is your mindset (or soulset), and a decision to be happy.

Believe me, I am not judging anyone who may be depressed, or has gone through difficult circumstances and is not happy. I have been there. I know that pain, and the work it sometimes takes to get through. I’m just hoping that my experience will help someone get to joy a little faster. It is how life was meant to be lived. “Men are that they might have joy.

Have you ever read about a fabulous sale, only to get to the store and discover you’ve been tricked? What was offered for sale is not available, but surprise! There’s another deal, which of course, is going to ask you to part with a great deal more money!!

It’s known as the Bait and Switch game of marketing. We’d like to share a different, more positive game, called the Subconscious Bait and Switch! Here’s how it works.

You “BAIT” those deep, dark memories, thoughts, and feelings – at a time when you are not going through an emotional experience – when you can evaluate them objectively and dispassionately – like after some meditation time at Headquarters, or when you are doing some journaling. You “Bait” your subconscious by saying or thinking key phrases that are incomplete, allowing your subconscious to fill in the blank.

For example, in your own mind, complete these sentences:

“I am just no good at ” (singing; marketing; managing money; meeting people..) “I would be so much better off, if it weren’t for” (parents; my boss; some past event) “The one thing I fear most is” (failure; looking silly; being taken advantage of; being alone; health problems.) “When I look in the mirror” (OK – no examples necessary!)

You get the idea Your subconscious immediately fills in the blank. This is your cue to pull the “Switch!”

You “Baited” the error thought to come to the surface, but instead of nurturing that belief, and supporting it with your thoughts, words, and actions, you move into the process of Truth Transformation! You write your thoughts down, and then set the intention to replace that self defeating thought with a more empowering Truth about who you are.

For example, let’s use a non-threatening, low-risk one: “I’m just no good at singing!” Let’s evaluate that thought for Truth. Who says that? Who am I comparing myself against: my friends or Celine Dion? What if I sang for fun? What if I asked someone I trust to give me an honest appraisal of my singing? How is claiming that I can’t sing serving me?

Now for the most important piece: Every time I catch myself saying this, what could I say instead? Create a replacement phrase for yourself. Not a lie that you can’t even begin to believe, but some replacement that moves you to a better place in your subconscious about this issue. In this example, you might say instead, “I enjoy singing for fun!” or “I like to sing in the shower!” Can’t you already feel the cobwebs being swept away? Try the Subconscious Bait and Switch to become aware of your hidden limiting thoughts and beliefs, and transform your thinking and your experience!